My next door neighbor spends insane amounts of time outside in summer
He lives with his kids and is in his late 50s but you would not believe how many hours he spends per day sitting in his front yard watching YouTube and TikTok. Basically as soon as the weather warms up in September all the way to April or May.. he is sitting on the same chair from about 11am to 1pm. Goes in for a bit and then goes back to the same chair till around 1am
Rise and repeat every single day.
He has been doing this for the last 10 years but every year he averages an extra house outside
It is driving me crazy
You won’t understand how annoying it is until you experience it.
To make it worse, there is hardly a fence and house is fibro so I can here his yourune and phone conversations every day
Any one have any suggestions?
He has been doing this for the last 10 years but every year he averages an extra house outside
It is driving me crazy
So.....You're annoyed or envy that he does this every day?
Any one have any suggestions?
Buy some noise cancelling headphones? I mean his yard, assuming he isn't broadcasting so loud that makes the world shake apart, it's kind of his life. You could always put up a fence, or buy him some headphones as a present...Maybe he'll take the hint and use them.
I might find it annoying, and absolutely would like to experience this at home everyday from 11-1pm.
How do I achieve this?
Seriously, maybe just have a chat with him in general – not directly confronting, just a chat. Ask him how his day is, what he is watching, and how he managed to be so successful to have so much free time.. ask him a lot of questions about what he's watching and who he's talking too.. like WOW who is this XXX person you keep talking to! Sounds important!
And who is YYY person on tictok, sounds interesting, I might follow them..
Really freak him out with how much he's letting out.
It is driving me crazy
Why does it bother you so much? It's not like he's staring at you from his garden, he's just on his phone?
Benefit of it is he's around most of the time so unlikely your house will get robbed.
sitting in his front yard watching YouTube and TikTok
Used to be kids with their boom boxes and Bluetooth speakers on the train, these days it's old people watching AI voiced shorts at maximum volume because they're apparently hard of hearing.
I can understand the frustration, I've go no issues with my neighbours who sit out in the yard having a pleasant conversation, but if someone was blasting Sky News and blatant scams on their phone all day I'd be annoyed too.
how he managed to be so successful to have so much free time.
Probably a dole bludger with the government paying for his kids. If he really was successful he wouldn't be at home all day doing nothing.
If he really was successful he wouldn't be at home all day doing nothing.
Or he's possibly been so successful that he can afford to do just that?
After 10 years he’s not going to change.
Unless the noise is unreasonably loud you don’t have to ground to compel him to change.
So the change will need to come from you.
After 10 years he’s not going to change.
Maybe it's the media consumption that's changed?
Anyway just curious how people would treat this noise vs a neighbour playing noisy bass all day and night as an example and there was a similar thread a few years ago.
Any one have any suggestions?
So I assume changing the behaviour is not going to happen. Loud phone calls are rude but there's no law against it. As others suggested I would buy him a set of these shockz and go over and ask if he can have a go at using them. I'd be up front.
They work amazingly well (totally silent to you and he can listen and also continue to hear ambient sounds)
Any one have any suggestions?
you might want to find a hobby or get a life than worry about old mate on his front porch
Any one have any suggestions?
Have you actually tried talking to your neighbour?
He might not even realise that his enjoyment irritates you, although if you've lived with it for ten years, it's odd that you have waited so long to voice your issue.
I'd grab a few beers, wander over and have a chat with him. He might just be lonely, and you might end up with a friend; you can never have too many.
Probably a dole bludger with the government paying for his kids. If he really was successful he wouldn't be at home all day doing nothing.
Yes exactly. 100% dole bludger. Purchased his house about 25 years ago for $250k and still owes about $400k on it and basically his adult kids are paying it of as he transferred it to their name
He’s basically been living of the dole and redrawing on the house everytime it increases in value
I'm still wondering what the problem is?
Is it that you can hear his phone from your place, or the fact that he is outside enjoying his life all day?
It seems like you know a lot about him, so surely you could have had a chance to go over an have a chinwag with him.
I can hear his phone from my place all day. It’s not blasting loud but I always know he’s there. It’s constant and extremely repetitive .:. day in day out. Public holidays, Christmas , any day is the same until winter comes
It’s not a huge issue.. just very weird and annoying
Yes exactly. 100% dole bludger. Purchased his house about 25 years ago for $250k and still owes about $400k on it and basically his adult kids are paying it of as he transferred it to their name
He’s basically been living of the dole and redrawing on the house everytime it increases in value
Ten years and you've said nothing to him about it? And how come you know so much detail about his financial state? Sounds to me like the whole story is a load of cr@p.
and from his side – he just wants to be in his own place and do what he enjoys, not disrupting anyone and yet there is the possibility of annoying neighbours not wanting him to do hiss own thing on his own property.
I fail to see what the issue is he is doing ...
Plant some trees and shrubs at the fence line where he is noisiest and a higher fence, keep your windows shut and your air conditioner on.
Or move.
I always know he’s there.
Problem being what though? I always know when my neighbours are home, they have a young child and that child has been exploring what their lungs can do lately, I have kids too (older) and I don't care, it's part of living next to someone.
You seem to either know him very well or made a huge load of assumptions that are meaningless and could be completely off base. You obviously stay there all day and watch him otherwise you wouldn't know these facts that he spends every day all day there.
I fail to see what the issue is he is doing ...
Same here. The neighbour's doing nothing wrong, probably doesn't like being cooped up inside much, like me. When I'm not in my shed I spend a lot of time outside in my old rocking chair on my back verandah watching the grass grow, and enjoying the company of the native birds that visit our place. it's a normal thing to do, and can be beneficial to your mental health.
The neighbour's doing nothing wrong, probably doesn't like being cooped up inside much, like me. When I'm not in my shed I spend a lot of time outside in my old rocking chair on my back verandah watching the grass grow, and enjoying the company of the native birds that visit our place.
All good, my father sat outside from dawn until dusk listening to ABC local radio, he'd sit out the back until the sun came up, move to the front verandah for a few hours in the shade, and move out the back again in the afternoon, I'd say his skin was probably more like crocodile leather. And my neighbours must be shift workers, they could be outside as early as 6 or 7am, or some nights they'll start after 9pm and be up until after 1am.
Doesn't bother me, although I do understand the frustration of the OP, sadly living in a society respect for neighbours or even commuters seems to be a thing of the past, they say it's not loud but even enough to hear them constantly would drive me mad!
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If it annoys you watching him all day why don't you go and get a job, then you will be too busy/tired to notice
If it annoys you watching him all day why don't you go and get a job, then you will be too busy/tired to notice
I work from home full time .. have a managerial job
Trust me it will drive you mad . I just can fathom how a human can sit outside in the same spot .. watching videos on loud speaker on his phone .. for literally the majority of his awake time.. and it’s not just a diffident time in beteeen jobs for example. It’s every single day of summer of when temperatures are not uncomfortably cold so sometimes goes into autumn and spring
Trust me it will drive you mad .
So what did your neighbour say when you approached him with your concerns?
Trust me it will drive you mad
Not if you had headphones on, you wouldn't hear anything especially with some decent noise cancelling ones. When I work from home I have headphones on most of the time, calls sometimes and other times music.
25 years ago for $250k and still owes about $400k on it and basically his adult kids are paying it of as he transferred it to their name
He’s basically been living of the dole and redrawing on the house everytime it increases in value
Clever.
Put up a 6.6 foot Colourbond steel fence ..you won't see him and won't hear much through the steel..you could also add brush fencing to insulate your side even more .......lol..lol
I just can fathom
I just can't fathom how it affects you so much ..
What is the actual reason you find it so annoying ?
I work from home full time .. have a managerial job
Then you should be inside during working hours, you know, working. Not sure how someone outside can bother you.
insane ... crazy
My lady has a saying – "Don't talk about yourself like that!"
If we are to believe this is a genuine complaint, then it sounds like a You problem.
100% dole bludger. Purchased his house about 25 years ago for $250k and still owes about $400k on it and basically his adult kids are paying it of as he transferred it to their name
He’s basically been living of the dole and redrawing on the house everytime it increases in value
sounds like a smart guy – yeah, I'd be jealous too.
I'm sensitive to noise – here's what works for me when we go into a noisy restaurant with people shouting and loud muzak that gets up my nose – I order a cold beer, take the first sip, and suddenly my irritation with the noise just evaporates !
"A man must believe in something – I believe I'll have another beer" – Cheers, Mate !
To make it worse, there is hardly a fence and house is fibro so I can here his yourune and phone conversations every day
The only thing you can do to avoid the sight of it all and reduce some of his daily droning sounds that are getting on your nerves would be to grow a hedge and perhaps visit Bunnings and put up a decorative privacy screen on your side of the existing fence there is. Or indulge in some other kind of fence panelling.
I think its best that you control what you see and can't see and putting something up within your border is the only way to do it. I think the cost will be well worth it.
If you home office is facing in his direction – the maybe consider double glazing on that office window.
If you don't have a/c – maybe thats a way to insulate and lock out outside noise during those hot weather ie get a/con.
Paying for piece of mind is the only way out of your circumstance I suspect. And I assume he would be unwilling to negotiate a newer higher fence to replace the old one.
There is no other means really and talking to him will not change whatever his circumstances are – which point to some sort of mental condition or physical health issue.
Unfortunately we can't pick our neighbours.
And I assume he would be unwilling to negotiate a newer higher fence to replace the old one.
Why should he?
OP appears to be the one with the issues.
Ten years and OP doesn't appear to have approached their neighbour or made any attempt to engage in a civilised chat or some form of mediation to resolve this issue. Yet, OP claims to have intimate knowledge of the neighbour's financial affairs.
which point to some sort of mental condition or physical health issue.
Analysis from a one-sided, biased post?
Unfortunately we can't pick our neighbours.
That'll probably be what the neighbour would think also.
Analysis from a one-sided, biased post?
Yes, we only ever get a one sided view in neighbour issue threads such as this. That's why I try to take them with a grain of salt. You cannot give meaningful advice until both sides are known and that'll never happen. In the op's case the issue has been going on for ten years and nothings been done, so the whole story seem implausible.
The only thing you can do to avoid the sight of it all and reduce some of his daily droning sounds that are getting on your nerves would be to grow a hedge and perhaps visit Bunnings and put up a decorative privacy screen on your side of the existing fence there is. Or indulge in some other kind of fence panelling.
I think its best that you control what you see and can't see and putting something up within your border is the only way to do it. I think the cost will be well worth it.
If you home office is facing in his direction – the maybe consider double glazing on that office window.
Thankyou.. this is the best advice I have received
To the people who think I am jealous.. not sure if are serious or not but no one in their right mind would be jealous of a dole bludger that spends the majority of his awake life .. watching ticktock and YouTube on the same chair outside
If you don't have a/c – maybe thats a way to insulate and lock out outside noise during those hot weather ie get a/con.
Paying for piece of mind is the only way out of your circumstance I suspect. And I assume he would be unwilling to negotiate a newer higher fence to replace the old one.
There is no other means really and talking to him will not change whatever his circumstances are – which point to some sort of mental condition or physical health issue.
Unfortunately we can't pick our neighbours
Analysis from a one-sided, biased post?
Not biased post at all. I am stating what I hear and see everyday. The guy is always in the same spot with videos on loudspeaker
A normal sane person would not do this
if you can't beat them, join them
enjoy your newly found enthusiasm for youtube schranz dj sets on your front lawn as well
but no one in their right mind would be jealous of a dole bludger that spends the majority of his awake life
You see this is what I mean about a one sided view. The neighbour is being accused behind his back with no option to respond. It may be that he is genuinely unable to work at all. He may be disabled in some way and possibly supported legally on a disability pension. In any case, whether he is a dole bludger or not, and whether he owns his house or not is irrelevent to the issue.
You could complain about him having his phone too loud on speakers because that can be annoying, but you can't complain that he spends so much time outside. He is legally entitled to do so on his own property.
However, statements like the one quoted above, and the fact that you have let his habits annoy you for ten whole years makes me skeptical of your whole story.
Him being there is a great burglar deterrent.
If this is the worst you have to complain about, you've got it good.
However, statements like the one quoted above, and the fact that you have let his habits annoy you for ten whole years makes me skeptical of your whole story.
That and the fact that OP conveniently ignores questions about how they know so much about their neighbour's financial affairs, and also has made no attempt in the last ten years to initiate contact with the neighbour.
I call shenanigans on the whole story.
A normal sane person would not do this
A normal sane person wouldnt stalk their neighbour or GAF what they do
A normal sane person would mind their own business
That and the fact that OP conveniently ignores questions about how they know so much about their neighbour
Yeah! I have been waiting for a post from the neighbour.
"I work from home and on a nice day often sit out on the lawn working on the laptop or iPad. I have this weird neighbour who spends hours and hours just watching me. He never says anything or does anything, just watches. Weird."
I work from home and on a nice day often sit out on the lawn working on the laptop or iPad. I have this weird neighbour who spends hours and hours just watching me. He never says anything or does anything, just watches. Weird."
This sums it all up.
Ten years and OP doesn't appear to have approached their neighbour
Stick to facts, might be useful. Not interested in your argumentative style.
Stick to facts, might be useful. Not interested in your argumentative style.
Something fishy is going on here.
Stick to facts
There is no other means really and talking to him will not change whatever his circumstances are – which point to some sort of mental condition or physical health issue.
^^^^ facts or conjectures?
Something fishy is going on here.
Maybe the neighbour is saying no to his duplex
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To the people who think I am jealous.. not sure if are serious or not but no one in their right mind would be jealous of a dole bludger that spends the majority of his awake life .. watching ticktock and YouTube on the same chair outside
Your language suggests anger, bias, and prejudice, and is unlikely to be associated with good neighbourly relations.
Goes in for a bit and then goes back to the same chair till around 1am
Rise and repeat every single day.
He has been doing this for the last 10 years but every year he averages an extra house outside
It is driving me crazy
It must be a sad life he leads to be reduced to doing rubbish like that for 12 hours a day.
Anyway you can put up a fence so you don't have to see it, even if it's just along that section where he sits. Maybe it will cut down some of the noise.
If there is constant annoying amplified noise after 10pm then report it.
Noise from a phone etc turned up high might even be worse as its tinny and low quality.
I don't know if people talking normally is regarded as "noise pollution" or not ? Or disturbing the peace ?
You won’t understand how annoying it is until you experience it.
You could put up with the pair of grumpies over the road from us.
If we or the neighbour beside us (and another 2 doors down) go outside their door at night, either Mr or mrs grumpy turn lights on and off quickly or he goes out lifts and bangs down the lid of the wheelie bin – hard.
They don't put rubbish in.
Often she will walk behind him to the bin and back like a shadow about 1-2 metres behind him.
On top of this when they are at home, will hide behind their fence and peep through the gaps at neighbours.
This all has been going on for years.
Once upon a time they tried starting fights with neighbours, using their cat as an reason but a united front stopped all that.
Eventually he is going to get skin cancer and die, or at least be counselled to keep out of the sun. You will need to be patient.
Say gday, a bit of small talk, and casually/politely ask him if he can turn it down a few notches as it's coming through your home office.
Sounds like ordinary suburbs like Bankstown, Lakemba, Belmore.
Most people just stay at home all day. Rarely I see some people come out during the public holidays to buy a nice treat.
There aren't many enjoyable things in life since most Australians are broke. They probably gave up on the 9-5 gruel a long time ago.
The thing is that you must be in a similar position where you are at home most of the time too, in order to be able to see the events unfolding.
Therefore, when you actually retire, you need to do it in a more posh suburb. I would recommend you go back to work again.
LOL the neighbour has been doing it for a decade and the OP is still not able to deal with.
Sell your house and move rural away from other properties – with respect the neighbour is not the issue, you are as you chose to live in a house with next to no fence and so close to an adjoining property.
He lives with his kids and is in his late 50s but you would not believe how many hours he spends per day sitting in his front yard watching YouTube and TikTok
I'd say the dude can't stand sitting inside all day listening to his family. A lot of blokes used to spend most their days hiding in the shed for that reason, this guy just sits outside instead.
Not much you can do about it, he has a right to sit and talk on the phone in his own yard. If he is playing videos at a loud volume you could mention that to him and see if you can get him to turn it down a bit or get some headphones.